Diane Metcalf, Author

Hi! I'm Diane Metcalf

Home should be a place of safety and comfort, but for many who live with controlling, jealous, or possessive individuals, it isn't. I’m here to help you reclaim your voice, set powerful boundaries, and heal on your terms.

I have a free safety planning guide for you

Create your plan in under 10 minutes

The need for dominance and control can extend beyond the home. It can look like:

  • Isolation (limiting your freedom, ignoring and isolating you, making everyday life feel unpredictable and even dangerous.)
  • Violence (punishing you by hitting, kicking, punching, taking things that belong to you.)
  • Control (intimidation, limiting your access to friends, family, and money, monitoring your whereabouts, who you speak to, and using threats and intimidation that cause you to feel afraid.)

If you are living in this kind of situation, please know that you are not alone; help and support are available.

These acts are rooted in the need for power and control. This behavior is not about love or passion. It is aboutcontrol, and it is NOT YOUR FAULT.

Here’s how to start protecting yourself today

Safety planning can help empower those experiencing Intimate Partner Violence, Domestic Violence, and Coercive Control to take steps toward a safer future.

You can start creating your plan in under 10 minutes.

  1. Trauma-informed
  2. Evidence-based
  3. Survivor-led

Safety planning:

  • Helps survivors avoid high-risk situations while still in the relationship.
  • Reduces the likelihood of injury during violent episodes.
  • Increases preparedness for rapid escape when the opportunity arises.
    (Source: WHO, 2012; DV advocacy literature)

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